“Sometimes you don’t see appreciation or results in order to purify your acts from the attachment to anything other than His pleasure.”
Nobody wants pity, they want understanding and support. THESE are the true opposites, the true counter-actors to isolation and detachment. Expressions of worry will always come off patronizingly no matter how well-meaning your intentions were, because at the end of the day for those few moments you stopped believing in the competency of the human being in front of you. You suspended your understanding of the person you know and substituted it for a sad helpless caricature that you can feel sorry for, one whose right to autonomy you are implying should be called into question. There is nothing reassuring about that. If you want to encourage someone who may be in trouble, pity or worry is the LAST thing you should be expressing, or should even WANT to express. Pity is a self-gratuitous, self-righteous emotion. It’s playing God, even in the “purest” of scenarios
“Expect less from the people and more from Allah. How? With every situation always think of the best outcome possible that you’d like to occur. Then believe that Allah will grant you far better than this. In the end, He will grant you greater than even your mind can consider.”—
Sometimes my depressive mood manifests itself into laying on the floor feeling void right after feeling something when I pray. Sometimes it’s because I don’t feel anything when I pray. Sometimes it’s because I felt too much during the day. It feels okay to just lay there and not want to move or be motivated by anything to move.
“Do not shove your feelings away to be dealt with at a later time. Do not block emotions simply because you do not have the patience. They are an important part of being human, so please respect yourself enough to acknowledge them.”— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
“As I grow older, much older, I will experience many things and I will hit rock bottom again and again. Again and again I will suffer; again and again I will get back on my feet. I will not be defeated. I won’t let my spirit be destroyed.”—
Banana Yoshimoto
posted this on my 19th birthday
and on my 19th, everything began to change
I tell everyone this and I mean it. Buy a journal. Carry it with you everywhere you go. And I mean everywhere. Write about your favorite moments, your least favorite moments, ideas, grocery lists, people you’ve met, strangers you’ve walked past on the street, favorite quotes, words to remember, what the sky looked like at 7pm, new songs you’ve discovered and what they mean to you, your childhood, places you want to go or places you’ve been, write about your passions, how you feel in this exact moment, draw out the mountains, scribble all over the pages. And when that one gets full, buy a new one. Reread it in 2 years, 20 years, when you need a good laugh, when you’re crying on your bathroom floor, read it to your children. You need to remember these moments in your life. They are so important.
